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How ‘Textual Chemistry’ Is Changing Dating
But unlike the phone call, which has been around for decades, texting and messaging are new enough that no one can agree on what the hard and fast rules of texting are, which means a typo might doom a future relationship. A winky face may be creepy to one person and friendly to another. Long texts can demonstrate care or reek of desperation. That’s why 58% of singles think texting makes dating more ambiguous, according to a recent study from online dating sites Christian Mingle and JDate.
And yet the importance of texting grows with each passing Valentine’s Day. As more and more couples meet online or through dating apps, texting has become not only a means of seduction, but also the foundation upon which a future might be built. Whether a witty repartee is established in those first few messages on Tinder or Bumble could be the first step to a lasting relationship.
And the problems persist in long-term relationships, where texting and emailing have in many ways supplanted face-to-face conversations. In a 2015 poll by the Gravitate Research Group, 80% of Americans said they prefer texting to voice calls, and the average American spends 26 minutes texting every day.
So texting compatibility can be an important signifier of how communication would work in a long-term relationship. A 24-year-old friend and medical student living in Chicago, Madeleine Boesche, says that texting killed her relationship with an older guy she was seeing.
“He was usually very prompt in his replies, but the way he phrased his messages was always stilted, dry and emotionless,” she says. “When we would hang out he was funny and charismatic and a great conversationalist. But anytime I made a joke over text he would respond seriously, killing the witty banter vibe and ending the conversation.”